Career lessons about grit (and nepotism) from Oscar-nominee Sofia Coppola

Career lessons about grit (and nepotism) from Oscar-nominee Sofia Coppola When the Oscars run (probably overtime) on Sunday, Ill be rooting for Lost in Translation for best picture. Not that I have seen the other competitors, but I loved this particular movie. In fact, I was so impressed that I read up on Sofia Coppola. In the process, I learned more about career management by how she managed hers. Of course, Sofia has had more advantages than most fledgling directors. Her dad, Francis Ford Coppola, provided her with a stunning apprenticeship, including giving her a part in The Godfather: Part III, screenwriter lessons and producing Lost in Translation for her. But before I launch into a celebration of Sofia Coppola, I need to say that the U.S. is not a meritocracy: Rich people are better connected, so they get better jobs. And rich people who are not well connected tend to get better jobs because they have an easier time envisioning themselves in a successful career than poorer people. An example: My younger brother, now 21, did almost no homework in high school, and he recently landed a job most college graduates would covet investment banking in Europe. He used connections and a lofty vision of himself to get it. He started on his career path in high school by getting a management job at a Blockbuster store? This was easy in the wealthy community where we were raised because no adults there wanted (or needed) this type of job. That left the entry-level management jobs to high school students. At my local Blockbuster store in sort-of-rough-and-tumble Brooklyn, the managers are in their thirties. So the first moment of inequality is that rich kids can get great jobs in high school. Since he had been an actual manager before, I was able to give him a management job in my own company during the summer after his freshman year of college. And I concede he did an outstanding job. But only a sister would give a 18-year-old a management job in a software company. The next year, my cousin, a high ranking guy at a big ad agency, gave my brother a summer internship even though my brother missed the deadline for applying and wasnt in business school like all the other interns. And to be honest, my brother did a great job of mending fences with a basically estranged cousin. He also had a stellar resume written by yours truly. So by the time my brother graduated from college, he had a great experience on his resume that helped him land his new job in Europe. I dont begrudge him that. And I admit that with a lot of effort and even more luck, a poor kid could land the same positions as my brother. But its clear he had a million advantages that poor kids dont have, so he didnt need as much luck. Speaking of people who dont need luck, lets get back to Sofia. Tracing the career of a person who had every advantage in the book can make one a little peevish. So how do people act when they have every advantage? Thats the relevant question, because probably we should all act the same way. People like my brother, who have relatively few advantages compared to someone like Sofia, ask for everything just to see if theyll get it. He asked my parents to pay for him to attend an expensive college even though he didnt do a lick of homework in high school. Even though he knew he wasnt qualified, he asked my cousin for an internship. He could do this because he could envision himself getting it. Poor kids have to stretch to imagine having food on the table every night. In Sofias world, though, you dont just ask for something you operate as though youll definitely get it. The difference is that my brother and others like him still need to make contingency plans, whereas really well connected people dont. Thinking this way is what helps them to succeed. So Sofia Coppola wrote Lost in Translation for Bill Murray before he said hed make a movie with her. Once she finished the script it took her months to finally get it to him. Then she left messages on his 800-number for five months before he responded to the script. We should all believe in ourselves so much. How many of us would spend months on a project that might not happen? Its her belief in herself that impresses me. It doesnt matter if your last name is Coppola; if your screenplay is terrible, Bill Murray wont do it. In that sense, Sofia did, in fact, take a gamble, even though she wasnt in danger of starving like some screenwriters are. And with the biggest risks come the biggest rewards. Maybe rich people can afford to take more risks. But my point is that by believing in yourself, as Sofia Coppola did, you may be able to leap career hurdles you once thought were impossible. How can you not root for her on Sunday?